Carissa does offer advice- Love your parents damn it.

It took me thirty years to grow up.
I am the youngest of three girls with almost a decade separating our age groups.
My parents were very supportive and spoiled me dearly which I didn't realize until I lost my father to cancer in 2006 and then my mother (mentally) to dementia a few years later.

I am not looking for personal sympathy, but I want every son and daughter out there to have some genuine sympathy for their own parents. Parents are the sole reason you are here (other than God of course). In most cases, your parents kept you alive, wiped your tears and your backside and dealt with your annoying banter until at least 18. Yet, I meet people every day who are fighting with their parents about something lame, I watch youth disrespect their parent and I also see many parents sad, sick and alone in the assisted living my mother lives in.

My mother doesn't even know who I am, what day it is or where she is yet I can not sleep at night without making sure the person who gave me life is living her own best life under her horrible circumstances. I also spent time with my dying father who was on hospice during the final weeks of his life. My parents became my children during their weakest hours just like they used to be for me growing up in mine. You are theirs and they are yours.

In my early twenties, I thought my career was more important than family and that may be the only regret I can say I have in my life thus far. I encourage everyone, no matter your family situation to consider making amends asap. Love the ones who gave you life before their life is gone.

PS: I have also finally decided I want babies! I will have to have more than one so the odds of a great relationship (at least one of them liking me) are higher :)

"Parental love is the only love that is truly selfless, unconditional and forgiving. We never know the love of a parent till we become parents ourselves. Parents were the only ones obligated to love you; from the rest of the world, you had to earn it."

Posted on Nov 10th in memory of my daddy, Ron Biele. Happy Heaven's Birthday!


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